It’s been a confronting & sad week with one of my dementia friend’s husband dying and after dropping Mum to the bus for her day centre I learn that Mr B her ‘boyfriend’ has also died. Just brings it all home & makes it all a little too real. However, I’ve decided to honour Mr B by writing a little bit about his ‘relationship’ with my Mum. I will add that Mr B was happily married but he was a massive flirt with everyone & made Mum feel like it was just her.
Each morning that they are both getting transport to their day centre, Mr B is already on the bus when Mum & I arrive. It goes like this:
Mr B: “Morning pinky” – this is because my Mum’s favourite colour is pink.
Mum: “Morning perky”
Mr B sings: “She wore pink knickers & a hooly hooly skirt” etc etc
I didn’t know this song & whilst Mr B knew all of the words, my Mum would also remember some of them as he sang his way through the song, she would finish the lines.
I returned home to google/youtube it but couldn’t find it anywhere until suddenly I realised that Mr B had changed the lyrics slightly. For those of you who don’t know the song is ‘She wears red feathers & a hooly hooly skirt’ & it’s by Guy Mitchell.
Mum doesn’t remember Mr B so we won’t be telling her that he’s gone but we will miss him & their special morning repertoire. RIP lovely Mr B xxx